In this article, you will discover how to stay positive about life.
Being optimistic while remaining realistic will allow you to better manage your personal professional challenges.
Discover without further delay my 10 tips.
1 – Become aware of your automatic reactions
Automatic reactions are behaviors that you engage in on a regular basis and that are generated by automatic thoughts.
They are unconscious processes that manifest themselves as strong emotional reactions.
In order to manage them better, it is essential to become aware of them each time they occur.
For example, some people eat in an automatic way, for example, they are exposed to a stressful event, and without realizing it, they have already eaten a box of cakes.
Other people have difficulty asserting themselves and they put up with unpleasant behaviors that are contrary to their values. Then, as soon as they finish their conversation, they light a cigarette to de-stress.
Others watch the news all the time to keep up with bad news and suddenly feel anxious.
Being aware of your automatic reactions will allow you to identify their cause and by acting on this cause, you will take back control of your mind.
2 – Prepare some alternative behaviors in advance
You can prepare in advance a list of behavior alternatives that you can use whenever you understand that you are starting to focus on negative aspects of your professional or personal life.
To make a very simple example, a behavioral alternative might be: when I focus on something negative, I immediately listen to some music I like.
Your goal is to make your life easier and not to waste precious time and energy.
You will see that this list of alternatives will become one of your best allies to quickly and effectively get your emotions under control.
If we take up the first tip, you can either prepare behavioral alternatives to your automatic reactions or act on their cause by avoiding upstream that this cause influences you negatively.
3 – Train yourself
In order to be and stay positive, it is essential to live positively by developing and showing a positive attitude towards life on a daily basis.
For example, you can practice gratitude every day by being thankful for everything you already have in your life.
This applies to your family life, your children, your wife, your husband, your parents, and your friends.
You can also be thankful for things you own or for experiences that are important to you such as travel or long stays abroad.
You can also be grateful for your abilities, your talent, your learning, the lessons life has taught you, and everything that makes you unique in this world.
You can challenge yourself and develop a habit of seeing the positive in even the most difficult things.
By developing this habit, you will be able to maintain your optimism.
4 – Trust your emotions
Most of our behaviors are guided by our rational mind and little room is given to our emotions.
When, on the other hand, you allow yourself to perceive your emotions, understand their message and use what you have understood, new opportunities will open up for you.
You will find greater spontaneity and flexibility in your behavior.
This will allow you to become aware of the ideas, thoughts, and beliefs that prevent you from fully enjoying your life.
The important thing is to give the right place to each emotion without being overwhelmed by what you feel.
5 – Give your rational mind a rest
Giving your rational mind a rest will allow you to put aside your usual way of thinking and acting.
Most often you have acquired these behaviors from others but in others, you are the source of these mental prisons.
Doing this is essential because it is your unproductive habits that put you in a bad mood.
This will allow you to get rid of a limited vision of yourself, of what you deserve, and of what you can accomplish at work and in your private life.
6 – Put your well-being first
When we focus on negative events, we tend to no longer spend time doing all the activities that contribute to our well-being and fulfillment.
It is very important to find these activities. For example, you can write a list of things you like to do and start to re-schedule these activities into your agenda.
This could be meeting friends, practicing your favorite sport, reading a book, listening to music, etc.
By doing this, you will improve the quality of your life, better manage stress, and be more fulfilled.
7 – Increase your self-esteem
Self-esteem is a subjective evaluation of our value as an individual. Self-esteem is not always the same but depends on the context. This means that it varies from one situation to another.
In order to protect and strengthen self-esteem, it is essential to focus on all areas of your life in which you have good self-esteem.
You can build self-esteem by exposing yourself to increasingly difficult situations in order to realize that you can accomplish much more than you think possible.
This will help you build self-confidence and as long as self-confidence affects self-esteem, you will also develop a greater level of self-esteem.
You can also build self-esteem by becoming aware of all the things you love about yourself.
8 – Ask yourself the right questions
The first step is to become aware of the questions you constantly ask yourself.
The questions you ask yourself often have an extremely important impact :
- on the way you think
- on the emotions you feel
- on your actions
- on the results you get in your personal and professional life
Pay attention to the questions you ask yourself and then write them down.
Circle the ones that come up often or those that are related to a specific area of your life.
If you understand that you are constantly asking yourself questions that generate negative emotions, you can change these questions to redirect your attention to areas of your life that you can control and change.
By doing this you will be able to be and stay positive in your professional and personal life.
9 – Don’t be afraid to make mistakes
When we experience negative events in our personal or professional lives it is very easy to focus on what is wrong.
We switch to survival mode because we are driven by fear.
As a result, we no longer allow ourselves to dream and use our abilities and creativity to develop new opportunities in our professional or personal life.
At this point, it is essential to overcome the fear of being wrong and take new actions even if you are afraid.
Doing this will allow you to :
- use your inner talents
- discover new ones
- give a new momentum to your life
- focus more on the positive aspects of your life
10 – Take back control of your life
You must learn to stop allowing anyone to make you unhappy in your life.
If others make you suffer it is because you have given them that power.
By realizing this, you will begin to take back control of your life.
By loving yourself more and therefore giving yourself the importance you deserve, you will be able to build self-esteem and confidence.
Doing this will allow you to interrupt all relationships based on a form of dependency.
You will finally be free to appreciate the unique being that you are and to put your opinion in the first place.
This will give you the calm and courage you need to build a life that is consistent with your values, needs, and ambitions.
Conclusion on how to be and stay positive in life
In this article, I have shared with you 10 tips for keeping a positive attitude in your life.
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