In this article on how to get your self-esteem back, I share with you tips from my experience as a life coach. Before moving on to the tips, it is essential to understand the importance of constantly developing good self-esteem.
Why is it so important to understand how to regain self-esteem?
If you want to enjoy your life to the fullest, you need to build self-esteem. But this is not an action you can complete and then forget.
Self-esteem is a never-ending process and therefore it will never be complete.
The good news is that you can develop self-esteem by taking regular actions that allow you to act on different situations in your professional and personal life.
You are therefore responsible for this very important aspect of your life.
By taking care of it, you will be able to grow and experience more emotional fulfillment in your life.
Now that you understand the importance of this psychological dimension, I suggest you discover my tips on how to start rebuilding your self-esteem.
1 – Surround yourself with the right people
How do you lose self-esteem?
What are the events or people that affect it negatively?
Answering these questions is important to understand the factors that diminish your perceived self-worth as a person and as a professional.
For some of you, these may be people very close to you such as your family, friends, colleagues, or managers.
Have you tried sharing your joy about a given situation and hearing a range of criticism about your ideas?
How did you feel after such an experience?
Did you have more or less motivation to take action?
It is likely that you no longer have the energy to pursue your projects or the desire to stand up for your point of view.
If you want to avoid losing your self-esteem, try to limit your interactions with these types of people.
Instead, be more selective about who you choose to share your personal and professional life with.
Spend time with people who value you both at work and in your personal life.
If you are no longer satisfied with your current job, change it!
The same is true if you are no more satisfied with your friendships or if you don’t get along with certain members of your family.
You don’t have to put up with their behavior and you can decide to schedule your schedule to spend more time with people who are sincere and caring.
These are people who can see your weaknesses as well as your qualities, but who also appreciate your strengths and motivate you to go beyond your limits.
If you want to develop self-esteem and self-confidence, you should spend more time with this type of person.
Now, I suggest you move on to the next tip which is to make time for yourself.
2 – Make time for yourself
With everyday life, the routine, the needs you are trying to meet, and the problems you are facing, you tend to forget yourself.
You are so focused on others that you no longer give yourself the space and time to enjoy your life.
Taking time for yourself is not selfishness but common sense and even altruism.
By taking care of yourself, by devoting quality time to yourself, you increase your well-being, reduce stress, and consequently strengthen your health.
And if you are at your best, you can help others even better than you already do.
But taking time to do something that makes you feel good is also a way to build self-esteem.
By choosing to take time to enjoy life, you are declaring that you have value as a human being and that you have the right to be more joyful in your life.
By deciding to reward yourself for simply existing, you increase your self-esteem every time you decide to celebrate your life.
Don’t wait for a special occasion to honor your life, but rather schedule those enjoyable moments in your to-do list and find no excuse for not taking advantage of them.
Choose at least one activity that you enjoy and that gives you energy and do it at least once a week.
By doing this, you will build self-esteem and show others the importance of taking care of themselves.
Now, I suggest you move on to the next tip which is to do what you say.
3 – Do what you say
A very effective way to regain self-esteem very quickly is to follow through on your commitments.
If you notice that you tend to talk about what you are going to do without actually doing it, it is time to change your behavior.
I suggest you start with small changes and work your way up in terms of difficulty very gradually.
Think of self-esteem development as a marathon, not a sprint.
The goal is not to stress yourself out, but rather to start creating better habits in your life.
Before committing to do something, take the time to see if you have the motivation, time, and all the resources you need to honor your commitments.
If you don’t, don’t commit!
If you are ready, take action now and take the time to congratulate yourself and celebrate those moments of success as best you can.
Every time you do this, you will build self-esteem.
But when you fail to keep up your word, be kind to yourself.
Focus on what you have learned from this situation and think about what you can do to move forward.
In this way, you will keep a good level of esteem, you will have less tendency to procrastinate and you will be more motivated to take action to continue to strengthen your self-esteem on a daily basis.
Now, I suggest you move on to the next tip which is to appreciate your flaws.
4 – Appreciate your faults, not just your qualities
Appreciating your qualities is easier than appreciating your flaws.
While it is true that sometimes we are not aware of all our qualities, it is also true that we are often at least partially aware of our strengths.
Focusing on our strengths allows us to develop self-confidence and therefore also self-esteem.
But learning to also appreciate our flaws or rather what makes us different from others is the ultimate step in learning to accept ourselves and become complete human beings.
The more you will be able to love yourself as you are with your imperfections and differences, the more you will have greater self-esteem.
Accepting yourself no longer means that you decide to stop improving in your personal and professional life.
It is rather the choice to love yourself unconditionally no matter what happens to you in life and regardless of your results and mistakes.
By learning to accept your imperfection, you will stop judging yourself and you will develop a true inner peace.
This will allow you to give a different meaning to fear and failure will no longer exist.
As long as defeat no longer exists, you become free to express yourself without fear because any action becomes beneficial to you.
You allow yourself to leave your comfort zone and this allows you to become even more aware of your true potential and this is how everything becomes possible.
Now, I suggest you move on to the next tip which is to live in accordance with your values.
5 – Live in alignment with your values
Living in accordance with your values is not only important if you want to achieve your goals and feel true fulfillment in your life.
Living consistently with what matters most to you is also essential for maintaining good self-esteem.
Why?
Because to be truly happy in your life, you need to do what’s right for you as much as you can.
But to do this, it is first necessary to know your values and then prioritize them.
In some cases, you will need to resolve a conflict of values and make sometimes difficult choices. But having a global vision of your priorities will allow you most of the time to do what makes sense to you without wasting too much time and energy to make the right decision.
Living in accordance with your standards also allows you to give less importance to the opinion of others because you know that you are walking the path that suits you and that will allow you to flourish in your life.
So choose your 5 most important values and act consistently with them.
Conclusion on how to regain self-esteem
In this article, I shared with you 5 tips on how to regain self-esteem in your professional and private life.
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