How to overcome limiting beliefs

How to overcome limiting beliefs in 5 simple steps

In this article, you will discover how to overcome limiting beliefs and develop self-confidence in your personal and professional life.

If you feel stuck in a life that you no longer enjoy or feel that you are not making as much progress as you can, you should continue reading this article. If you wish, you can benefit from a tailor-made coaching with a life coach.

I will present you with 5 effective and simple steps to follow to start regaining control of your mind.

Here is a brief description of how to overcome limiting beliefs:

1 – Identify your beliefs

2 – Become aware of the negative impact of these beliefs.

3 – Identify the secondary benefits associated with your beliefs

4 – Demolish your limiting convictions

5 – Create and reinforce new positive beliefs


1 – Identify your beliefs

You can’t change a situation if you don’t perceive it and therefore if it doesn’t exist for you.

For this reason, the first step to overcoming your limiting beliefs is to recognize them.

To do this, I advise you to start from an area of your life where things are not going as well as you would like.

If it is a situation that has been dragging on for several years or even a problem that repeats itself cyclically in your life, it is very likely that a limiting belief is at the root of the pain you are experiencing.

These beliefs may come from significant events in your life to which you may or may not have automatically associated a meaning that limits your perception of reality and your ability to act effectively in a given situation.

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Now that you have learned the importance of detecting your beliefs, the second step is to become aware of the negative impact these beliefs have on your life.

2 – Become aware of the negative impact of these beliefs

Take the time to put in black and white the beliefs that belong to you as well as those that you have embraced by being in contact with your personal and professional environment.

Write the first name of the person behind each of the beliefs you have identified.

Then take one belief at a time and try to understand in which situations it has already influenced you negatively.

Write a few lines to explain the catastrophic impact this belief has had on your life.

Then, write down all the likely consequences you will suffer if you do not quickly change that belief.

How do you feel about the price you have already paid?

How do you feel when you imagine the negative consequences?

If you do not feel motivated to change your belief, it is because you are rationalizing the negative consequences of your lack of action.

If you wish to strengthen your motivation, I invite you to discover the article how to motivate yourself mentally.

Repeat the exercise by being emotionally associated with the pain you have experienced in your past and the pain you will most likely feel by doing nothing to change your life.

Don’t just write sentences that are too general, be specific!

What will be the real impact of your inaction if you don’t change?

What price will you pay?

Who in your life will suffer from your decisions?

Will you still have the courage to look at yourself in the mirror if you do nothing to regain control of your life?

Answering these questions honestly will help you regain some motivation to change your beliefs.

If you are having difficulty taking action, I advise you to read the article how to overcome the fear of taking action.

Now that you have learned the importance of being aware of the negative impact of your beliefs, the next step is to identify the secondary benefits related to your beliefs.

3 – Identify the secondary benefits associated with your beliefs

Is it possible that one of your limiting beliefs may bring you benefits?

In some cases, even if a belief has a negative effect on your life, there may be some secondary benefits.

For example, believing that you are unable to achieve a given goal may be a way to protect your self-esteem.

If this is your case, the support provided during a life coaching session can allow you to strengthen your self-esteem in order to reduce the need for overprotection and to encourage you to take action.

Now go back to your list of limiting beliefs and try to understand if there are secondary benefits that reinforce your limiting beliefs.

Once you have identified them, think of an action you can take to act on that secondary benefit and at the same time weaken the negative effect of your belief.

Plan this task in your to-do list and take action immediately.

By doing so, you will be able to get rid of the negative impact of your side benefits.

Now that you have realized the importance of identifying the secondary benefits related to your beliefs, the next step is to destroy your limiting beliefs.

4 – Demolish your limiting beliefs

There are several strategies you can use to eliminate your negative beliefs. For example, you can:

  • go back in time and remember everything you have done in your life that contradicts them
  • take new actions that show that the belief is not true
  • identify your most important motivation to change your life
  • focus on all the benefits of a new positive belief
  • change the meaning you give to the emotions you feel in relation to this limiting belief
  • change your internal dialogue associated with this belief
  • transform your language by using words that positively influence your thoughts, emotions and actions

If you have acquired a belief because of another person, you can try the following exercise.

Close your eyes and imagine talking to the person who instilled that belief in you. Imagine that he or she cannot talk to you.

He or she can just listen to you and you can tell him or her everything that is on your mind.

What would you tell him/her?

Tell the person what you are feeling and the emotions you are feeling, explain to them why what they are thinking is not true.

Imagine that you are going to give them something that represents their belief.

Then say, “I’m giving you your belief back, I don’t need it anymore and I forgive you for giving it to me.

Now open your eyes and write down the first action you will take to overcome your limiting belief.

If you are dealing with a personal or professional failure, I invite you to read the article how to bounce back from failure.

Now that you have understood the importance of destroying your limiting beliefs, the last step is to create and reinforce new positive beliefs.

5 – Create and reinforce new positive beliefs

You can create new positive beliefs:

  • that build on other positive beliefs that you already have
  • that allow you to keep the side benefits of the negative ones
  • that are consistent with your most important values
  • that allow you to protect self-esteem and build self-confidence
  • which you can reinforce by implementing new habits
  • that support the achievement of your most important goals
  • that positively impact many aspects of your life

Understand that this process requires you to constantly reinforce your belief because at first it will be just an idea.

It is by following these strategies and others that you will test yourself that, over time, you will be able to build a true belief working in the background to facilitate your personal and professional success.

Conclusion on how to overcome limiting beliefs

In this article, I have presented 5 tips to help you overcome limiting beliefs. If you wish to benefit from the expertise of a life coach, write to us now through our contact form or discover our life coaching packages.

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