How to get rid of feeling guilt
In this article on how to get rid of feeling guilt, I will give you some useful tips on how to build up your self-confidence and self-esteem and learn to be more assertive in your personal and professional life.
Let’s start with my tips.
1 – Forgive yourself for your mistakes
If you feel guilty about events in your professional or personal life, you are experiencing unpleasant emotions not only because of what others say or think about you.
You also feel in trouble because you are constantly judging yourself!
If you lack kindness and empathy for yourself and continue to blame yourself by reviewing your mistakes over and over again, you will not be able to overcome this sense of guilt and failure.
It is therefore essential to start forgiving yourself if you want to move forward and thrive again in your personal or professional life.
Forgiving yourself for your mistakes is also important to protect your self-esteem because if you don’t, you will become more and more critical of yourself.
As a result, you will tend to overprotect yourself and limit your interactions with others.
So you understand that in order to fully start living your life once again, you must begin to forgive yourself.
So how do you do this?
The starting point for this process is to change the meaning you gave to the events that are related to your guilt.
If you are able to give a more positive meaning to the situation, you will have made a significant step in your personal development.
After that, the personalized support of a confidence coach can help you make faster progress towards a life filled with even more satisfaction.
2 – Get rid of your perfection model
Your feelings of guilt may also depend on a model of perfection to which you have more or less consciously complied and which filters the perception you have of yourself and of others.
The solution is to broaden your options by accepting imperfection as part of your life and personality.
To overcome your guilt, you need to give yourself time to integrate or complete your personality by allowing contradictory aspects of yourself such as perfection and imperfection to coexist.
If you stay stuck in a rigid version of yourself, in which you have no room for error, you will keep suffering psychologically and you will not move forward!
But most of the time, people are not aware of these mental prisons that govern their lives.
To change your life therefore you need to become aware that such a limitation exists in your life.
If this applies to you, I recommend you read my article on how to stop being a perfectionist at work and in your private life.
If you feel the need, customized coaching with a life coach can help you foster this awareness and progress more quickly in your professional and personal life.
3 – Identify your limiting beliefs
A very effective way to deal with guilt is to understand the limiting beliefs that reinforce and fuel your guilt.
A belief is a strongly held idea in your mind that you no longer question rationally.
But beliefs influence your emotions, your thinking and your actions.
It is very likely that you have one or more beliefs that are preventing you from releasing that oppressive feeling of guilt.
If you can identify your beliefs, you will be able to create new, more functional ones that will help you take back control of your life.
Customized coaching provided by a life coach will help you become aware of all the beliefs that are hindering your personal and professional growth.
4 – Take back your responsibility
To stop feeling guilty, you must no longer consider yourself a victim of the situation or, even worse, believe that you are powerless in the face of events in your personal or professional life.
When you understand that you have the power, that you are in control of your life, you begin to experience different emotions.
You start changing your internal dialogue and you become more kind to yourself.
You also start to think in terms of what you can do to improve your situation and find a solution to the guilt that is consuming you from within.
If instead you stay in this powerless dimension, you will remain in this state of guilt for a very long time.
You have the choice and the power to change your life for the better by taking back control of your thoughts and actions right now!
The individualized support of a confidence coach can assist you in accelerating this process of change and getting back a better life balance.
5 – Be assertive!
Learning to be assertive is essential to finding a new balance.
The feeling of guilt, especially if it has been present in your life for a long time, has reduced your self-esteem.
Since self-esteem plays an important role in the ability to express yourself and to evaluate yourself fairly, it is likely that it is preventing you from finding the courage to perceive yourself objectively and even to love yourself enough.
If you have a negative perception of yourself, you may become too passive in all other situations of your life and this may prevent you from recreating a more stable identity.
You may find yourself unable to know who you really are and what is really important to you.
Eventually, you may begin to accept unacceptable conditions in your life because of your inability to defend yourself and express your point of view with ease.
This may become even more important in professional or personal environments that lack compassion.
The support of a life coach will allow you to strengthen your self-esteem and to become more assertive in any professional or personal situation.
6 – Avoid people who make you feel guilty
By following the previous tips, you’ll already be on the right track to stop feeling guilty.
But there is another aspect to consider if you want to put all the chances on your side.
That is identifying the people around you who are contributing to the guilt you feel.
Sometimes these are people who have low self-esteem and self-confidence.
They may also be people who are malicious or who have a habit of criticizing others.
If you know people who fit any of these categories, I suggest you limit the time you spend with them.
If you don’t, you will slow down your recovery from guilt or even worse, you will start to believe that they are right and that you deserve to suffer!
In order to do this, I recommend you surround yourself more with people who appreciate you and support you in your personal growth journey.
To learn more about this topic, I recommend you read my article on how to protect yourself from the gaze of others in which I discuss this subject in depth.
A personal coach can help you build self-confidence and self-esteem so you can create and build more constructive relationships with your personal and professional entourage.
Conclusion on how to stop feeling guilty
In this article, I have shared with you some tips that will help you take back control of your guilt so that you can start enjoying your life again.
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